Create your reality

Categories: Family, Life

Wednesday’s this month I’ve been blogging about craft projects. Tonight I wanted to blog about how I’ve finally managed to finish Shimri’s and Shimei’s baby quilts, but they aren’t finished yet. I did get them both basted and got the border on Shimri’s quilted today. I’d like to get Shimei’s border quilted and the binding basted on tomorrow, but we shall see. Since I’m not blogging about finished quilts, I thought I’d blog about the stress I created by trying to finish them.

In a large sense we create our own realities. We can’t control the actions of others, but we can control how we react and our own actions.

Today I created quite a bit of stress for myself. I do that sometimes. It’s not my brightest idea. I’ve prided myself on how calm and relaxed the holidays have been in the past because I set realistic expectations and don’t over plan everything. I’ve worked out the Thanksgiving cooking so that the food is all ready at the same time and we sit down to eat with a clean kitchen too.

And then this year we have a 2-year-old who wants to help cook everything and two 7-month-olds (tomorrow) who need to eat a lot, be put down for naps, have their diapers changed, and be played with and held. I already did one round of dishes today with Shimri tied to my back

Cooking with the 2-year-old is actually a lot of fun. Today we learned about yeast when we woke it up with some hot water and then gave it sugar to eat. She knows that when we make bread dough that after we mix it we need to cover it with a blanket (dish towel) and let it take a nap before we cook it too. And today we made it fancy and made cinnamon rolls with it. Tomorrow we’ll make dinner rolls. She really loves helping us cook. Which means scheduling making certain things around her interest and nap schedule.

All of that, wanting to get the quilts done, the house cleaned, update our hand print Thanksgiving table runner, and cook the food for tomorrow that doesn’t need to be cooked tomorrow cooked today, added up to me getting frustrated and resentful this evening. And when I finally calmed down enough to realize what I was resenting, it was myself. I resented the fact that I’d created such an unrealistic to-do list for myself. Not everything got done and I wasn’t recognizing what I actually did accomplish.

So I sat in the dark and nursed the babies to sleep, had some yummy cinnamon rolls and enjoyed a glass of eggnog with Brett.

My reality is three kids who I love so much it hurts some times. Tomorrow we’ll get the food cooked by dinner time. I’ll vacuum at least the floor the babies spend most of their time crawling around on so they don’t eat the fuzz on it. We’ll do one last round of “Thankfuls” before dinner and see what Iddo is thankful for this time. And I’ll make sure that the reality I create for the Christmas season this year is more realistic than the reality I tried to create for Thanksgiving Eve today.

And viewers like you. Thank you.

Categories: Learn Something

There’s something wonderful about sitting around the table with your whole family. It hit something deep down when we sat Shimri and Shimei at the table with us for the first time and I looked around at our family of 5 all at the table. But there are still certain meals, like tater tots and hot dogs, that just seem to want to be eaten while watching TV. For a while we were watching TV series via DVD during dinner. But then it became clear that Iddo was paying a little too close attention to them and we need to put those on hold while the kids are up for a while. So what were we to do?

We opted for PBS.

Every three weeks when I take the kids to the library I pick up a NOVA series or two for us to watch in the evenings. It’s been a lot of fun. We’re not sure how much Iddo is learning, but she enjoys it and we’ve sure learned a lot.

We started with a National Geographic series called “In the Womb.” One of the episodes is about multiples births and since we have our own set of multiples we were interested in that. The whole series was fascinating.

Next up was Ken Burns “The National Parks: America’s Best Idea.” That was long, but was a real interesting look at American history. We’re going to be going to Yellow Stone National Park next year and might check the series out again before that trip as a refresher on the history of the area. We’ve also decided to see how many of the National Parks we can visit as a family. If we ever want to take a trip and don’t have a particular destination in mind we’ll just check out our list of ones we haven’t been to.

The next two taught us about the earth – “Earth: A New Wild” and “Earth From Space” (or as Iddo called it, Space from Earth). These were amazing! “A New Wild” was a conservationist talking not about how humans are ruining the planet, but how humans working smarter, in partnership with the wild, can help make the planet a better place for humans and animals to live. If you ask us about what we’ve been watching/learning lately, we’re probably going to bring that one up. The latter was all the things we’ve learned about weather and climate from the different satellites we’ve put into orbit around the planet. They trace temperatures, oxygen levels, dust molecules, and so many other things that really expand our understanding of this planet.

While watching “Australia’s First 4 Billion Years” we decided that you need to be Australian to make the phrase “4 billion years” sound cool. It just isn’t cool when we say it. But Australia has the interesting characteristic of having a record of the world back to the oldest rocks. We learned about super-continents, mass extinctions, the evolution of life. I showed of my knowledge of trilobites, mainly that I can recognize them by sight.

Mt St. Helens: Back from the Dead,” about how the wildlife came back after the last big eruption, was interesting. But since it was only a 1 hour show and we were used to series it seemed real short.

Becoming Human: Unearthing Our Earliest Ancestors” was an interesting look at the discoveries that have been made about all the pre-human species on this earth. There are apparently people who specialize their studies in brain casts and in making stone tools. There’s a specialty for everyone. We learned that our bones contain a record of everything we’ve ever eaten and that tooth enamel grows with our circadian rhythms and you can tell how many days a person has been alive by counting the bumps in their enamel (something that I’m sure graduate students and not the professors are doing).

Shortly after starting “The Buddha: The Story of Siddhartha” we realized that we’d seen it before when it was first broadcast. But it was interesting to watch again anyway. I love the Dali Lama. I find the Buddha mentality and way of life to be very appealing.

Pale Male” was a Nature show about the red-tailed hawk that took up residence in New York City. New Yorkers can be a strange group.

Currently we’re watching “How We Got to Now,” the story of six facets of our modern world we don’t give much thought about but which greatly influence our life. So far we’ve only watched the episode about clean but we’ve already turned to each other more than once and wondered why we didn’t know that particular bit of history, like the creation of the sewers in Chicago or why soap operas are called soap operas.

Libraries are awesome. I’ve tagged enough PBS shows to keep us in tater tot and hot dog dinners (other dinners, like pizza, call for PBS too, we don’t have tater tots and hot dogs every week) for a while. We’re learning about animals, dinosaurs, babies, earth, and history. Iddo is learning to recognize the Buddha in every one and that none of this would be possible without viewers like you. Thank you.

Able

Categories: Family

Someone recently asked Brett if I am able to be at home with our kids. We liked the use of the word “able.” It is a privilege, one not everyone is able to have. But I am blessed to have that option. And it works better in our house because of it. We know it takes both of us to make this house run smoothly. Brett makes sure we have a house to begin with, keeps the kitchen neat and clean, and gets Iddo up and ready for the morning and puts all three kids down for bed. I handle general cleaning, laundry, and keeping the kids alive and entertained during the day. Iddo looks at me weird if ever I have to get her up or handle bed time because I’m definitely doing it wrong no matter how much I try to do it exactly like Dad. And while the laundry wouldn’t give Brett funny looks, it would take too long to explain my process to him for him to do it the way I do. The kids are growing into jobs at home but right now Iddo is in charge of witty sayings, Shimei is in charge of laughs and giggles, and Shimri is in charge of ponderous looks. It takes all of us to make our house work the way it does and I’m grateful my part is based solely at home.

Nearer My God to Thee

Categories: Gospel

Some hymns have always been favorites of mine. This is one of them. I love the connection with the story of Jacob from the Old Testament. I love the pleading in the music itself. And then BYU Vocal Point went and arranged it with Latin as well. Their version gives me chills every time.

It’s good even as an all cello piece.

The version I sing for Shimei isn’t nearly as intricate, but I hope he can sense the meaning and feeling in it.

May your Sabbath draw you nearer to God.

Nothing but blue skies

Categories: Random

Brett and I play a game called “Cloud.” The first person to see a cloud says “Cloud!” and points it out. Sounds like a real boring game. But it can be real tough because there aren’t often clouds around. We have a lot of blue sky sunny days, the days that make people talk about how beautiful the weather is.

But variety can be beautiful too. Stormy skies. Fog. Snow. Rain. Rainbows. Big fluffy white clouds. Whispy clouds. Variety is a good thing. A beautiful thing.

All this is to say that I’m missing some cooler temperatures right now, some beautiful fall and winter weather. The kind that make you pull out the heavy blanket for the bed. The kind that has you snuggling up under a blanket on the couch with a cup of hot chocolate. The kind that calls for soups for dinner. The kind that lets me get out my sweaters or my lovely coats and enjoy being all wrapped up.

So those of you who are “suffering” through some fall and winter weather right now, enjoy the variety.

Cloud!

Making Memories

Categories: Random, Remembers

Brett has yet to become accustomed to how I travel. When I travel somewhere I know my time there is limited and I want to make the most out of every minute I have there and not miss a thing. So that means limited stopping time for eating, sleeping, and doing other necessities. I just go go go go go. And I love it. And then I come home and crash. That’s how I grew up doing vacations.

When I was in 6th or 7th grade we took the week of spring break and did a loop of New Mexico (we were living in Santa Fe at the time) and saw where Smokey Bear was found and buried, where Billy the Kid was jailed and escaped, White Sands, the International Space Hall of Fame, and Carlsbad Caverns.

We spent a week in the DC area when I was in high school and we spent every waking minute seeing as many monuments and museums as we could. It was a lot of fun.

My family knows how to pack a vacation.

We have our first big trip scheduled with our kids for next summer and I’m already excited. I have such great memories of trips and vacations with my family and all that we were able to see and do together. And now I get to pass on my crazy vacationing to the next generation, tempered, of course, with a bit of Brett’s sit back and relax style of vacationing. And hopefully they’ll have some great memories to look back on too.

Iddo

Categories: Family, Happy Things

Iddo is a very perspicacious child. Her life is full of wonder, excitement, and discovery, and so she fills my life with the same. Some of that excitement, like watching the garbage truck go past or loud rolling thunder, scares her, but she bravely hides behind my leg and sticks it out. And once she’s gotten over her fear she’s all in. She would swing all day long now if we’d let her while just a few months ago she was terrified of the swings. She loves books and libraries. She has a memory to envy. She constantly says things that make me pause and think about their depth or just laugh at how wonderful the world must look from her point of view. And she’s an incredible big sister, completely loving of her little sister and brother. She loves to play with them and help them, singing and reading to them.

I am grateful that I was blessed with the patience I would need until I was fully ready to welcome this incredible spirit into our home. She is exactly what our home needs.

Lovely little Iddo