Decent Respect

I am a huge fan of chivalry (kindness and courteousness especially towards women). I love when my date opens doors for me. I love when he makes sure he’s on the street side of the walk. It’s things like helping me with my coat. All of those little things do add up. None of them are hard. And I don’t see any of them as being demeaning or insinuating that I could not do any of that on my own. It is a matter of respect and courtesy, and it makes a huge difference in if the guy gets more dates or not.

What I find absolutely disgusting though is the little respect women are given in certain types of music (among other places, there are a few establishments that I would prefer to never frequent simply because of how they portray men and women on their commercials). On a talk show recently the host had Chris Brown as the musical guest. She said he was his favorite right now and she was real excited to have him on. And then he sang his song “Wall to Wall” and I was so disgusted I had to turn the television off. It was degrading. It was debasing. It was disrespectful. Any woman with half a brain should be incredibly offended by music like that. No self-respecting woman behaves like the women described in that song. No self-respecting man would act like the man described in that song. Respect for your date starts with respect for yourself, and there is no respect in that song.

And furthermore, I’m not just standing around against the wall waiting for some guy to pick me out of a pack. I’m off living my life, and enjoying it. And any guy who can keep up is welcome to come along.